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After over 40 years of working with national and international corporations and businesses, world-class sky-divers, cyclists, triathletes, golfers, and thousands of individuals who want to succeed in life, Bill has distilled his knowledge and experience into a series of books that have just one goal; to help people become better versions of themselves.
Podcast Highlights
Who is Bill Lee Emery?
Bill started his career working with computers but he knew that wasn’t his calling. He realized that when he was going to work he was leaving his heart at home. He left his career in search of more meaning in his work, and in the process Bill found mentors and wisdom that he eventually distilled into his series of books.
If what you do isn’t pleasurable or enjoyable, and doesn’t energize you it’s time to find work that checks those boxes for you. As an old lion, Bill is working on passing on the gems of wisdom that he has picked over the past 4 decades and passing them onto younger generations.
Gems of Wisdom
You can have a theory about something, but putting it into practice is the real goal. Criticism comes from two places, internal and external. For many people, their internal critic can do a lot of damage and can hold us back. The first step is becoming aware of your internal critic and why you’re being self critical. Every element of criticism is a positive intention to do something different. Taking criticism as feedback is important to growing so you have to separate who you are from what you’ve done.
You need the emotional capacity to take in criticism so that you can be honest with yourself and other people.
Tips on giving criticism: don’t do it in front of other people, and focus on behavior and not the person. When someone asks you for your perspective, starting with asking them what they like and what they would change is a gentle way to analyze their own work.
When there are differences of opinion, there are two intentions you can have: to protect or to learn. When someone is giving you feedback and your intention is to learn, you can take those good elements and grow yourself, but you have to be aware of your intention to do that.
When you do something for a long time, you come to expect that everyone can do it as easily as you can, but that’s not the case.
We need to be conscious of the level of compassion we use with ourselves. Bill always focuses on self-care and he teaches other people that they need to do the same. Take the compassion you show to other people and treat yourself like someone you are taking care of.
From Perfectionist To Compassionate
When someone is in pain, they will do almost anything to get through it. If a perfectionist doesn’t feel the pain of perfection yet, they won’t be ready for the conversation yet.
Using simple questions can open the door to leveraging a pain point and helping a perfectionist change.
We choose the meanings we make out of every single event of our lives. The meanings that we choose become our reality, and it doesn’t matter if they are true or not. The key question is whether the meaning we are choosing is useful or not. If the meaning you are choosing isn’t useful then it’s time to drop it and find a new, more useful one.
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How To Be Bulletproof From Criticism: And Do Whatever the Heck You Want (It is YOUR Life!) Australia
How To Be Bulletproof From Criticism: And Do Whatever the Heck You Want (It is YOUR Life!) USA