Fascinating facts on fear of the unknown. Bobbi Kahler shares how you can overcome the fear of starting something new by turning your fear into excitement. She also describes the incredible change that happens when you decide to take control of what you have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.
Who Is Bobbi Kahler?
Bobbi Kahler is an Entrepreneur, Writer, Leader, Speaker, Life Coach, Avid Athlete, and Resilient Survivor. For more than two decades, Bobbi has led workshops for thousands of people and worked with some of the most recognizable brands on the planet. She is the author of Travels of the Heart: Developing Your Inner Leader, and was a contributing author to the Amazon and NY Times best-selling book, Masters of Success, and she is the host of her podcast: UnYielded: Thriving No Matter What.
Difference Between Present Performance and Future Potential
Are you living up to your true potential? What are you doing today to improve your chances of future success?
Potential and performance are words often used interchangeably, but in the real sense, they are massively different. While potential predicts the likelihood of a person’s future success, performance speaks of the results an individual drives based on current actions. In life, high potential often guarantees high performance. But high performance does not always equal high potential. So if you’re in a place where you feel you can do better than what you’re currently managing, here’s some good news for you – it’s possible. Just because you’re not good enough right now doesn’t mean you’ll never be good enough. It just means you’ve got work to do.
How to Start Improving All Aspects of Your Life
We all know that success is never by accident. The people who consistently achieve greatness do things differently from the rest. The big question now becomes, what is it that they do, and what does it take to reach elite status?
If you’re looking for simple ways to immediately improve all aspects of your life, you’ll need just 3 things. These three things are simple and quick, but almost nobody follows them. Bobbi calls them the Triple As:
- Act – Take action. Just do something, and if you don’t know what action to take, research should be the first thing you do.
- Assess – Assess the things you did and the results you got. If you succeeded, find out what led to that success. If you failed, fantastic, there’s a lesson to be learned.
- Adapt – We live in an ever-changing world. What worked today might not necessarily work tomorrow. Always remember to continuously evolve and modify your processes.
3 Reasons People Become Stuck and Unsuccessful
It’s normal to feel stuck in a situation, a job, or a relationship. Sometimes you may not know what’s troubling you. Other times you do know what’s keeping you stuck, but you just can’t shake it off. The good news is there are ways you can identify what’s keeping you stuck. The not-so-good news is life goes by fast, faster than you could ever imagine. And if you’re not careful, you will end up with a bucket full of excuses instead of wins and experiences.
That said, here are 3 reasons you might be stuck in life.
- Your beliefs. Beliefs, especially limiting beliefs, are there to protect you, but they can also keep you from being the best you can be.
- Overplanning. Every time you plan on doing something, don’t wait. Just do it. Take messy action. You don’t need to have everything figured out. A step in the right direction is better than a master plan on paper.
- Ignorance. Knowledge is dangerous. What you think you know will imprison you. When you believe things will always be the same, you limit the endless choices and possibilities at your disposal.
The Fear of Starting Something New
Fear is a natural human instinct that can bleed into every aspect of our lives. There is nothing wrong with being afraid of the unknown. But just because something is unknown doesn’t mean it can’t be conquered. You see, successful people experience the same fears as everybody else. But they never let fear stop them from going after what they want. Fortunately, you can do it too. You just have to understand that fear and excitement exist on the same spectrum; they evoke the same emotions. The next time you feel fearful, think of it as something exciting. Don’t overthink it and always ensure the possible wins take up more space in your mind than the potential for failure.
- Leader to recognize that people are self motivated and tap into that.
- Have an environment of trust, so that you can be a good leader.
- 6 C’s of Engagement – Context, connection, control, commitment, communication and confidence. Put those in place and perform them well.
- Process is important but you have to have a culture that embraces it and is committed to it.
- Learn how the team impacts the business.
- Find out what pieces are missing. You may have some of those C’s but some of them may be incomplete and can be optimized.
- Work on the context first and give the team the important information that would help them understand the big picture and how they are impacting it.
Resources Mentioned In Show:
Bobbi’s LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobbikahler/
Bobbi’s website – https://www.bobbikahler.com
Free assessment: https://www.bobbikahler.com/saboteurs
by Ivan R. Misner PhD, Don Morgan, et al.